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I was on the phone with my little brother a few weeks ago and he told me that my blogs are either A) pointless or B) depressing. Wow, glad to hear he enjoys them! Lol...I'm not sure what he wants me to write about, but here's another depressing entry for the books.
Last spring sucked--I'm not going to lie. Grandma died in April at the ripe old age of 90 and it was absolutely horrible watching Grandpa mourn her passing. It was beyond gut-wrenching. We're not a family to show emotions AT ALL...I was speechless when Grandpa held Grandma's cold hand for hours after she died and all he said was, "She went in peace," while he calmly sat by her bed. Then the funeral came and he just wailed during the entire service...a few days later, I went to visit him and he broke down in tears while I was making small talk with him. This was not the strong German man I knew but heck, he lost his wife one day before their 63rd wedding anniversary and all his other friends had passed. He was all alone now and living in a nursing home, surrounded by human bodies that resembled vegetables. Who wouldn't cry if they were in his shoes?
Almost three weeks after Grandma died, Grandpa went to his morning dr's appointment and left with a clean bill of health. He went back to his room and died just a few hours later in his chair.
I was leaving a meeting in Topeka when I finally received the news. I called Justin to let him know what happened and he thought I was kidding--I wish I was but instead I drove the hour back to Manhattan in a complete daze.
The family was still coming to terms with Grandma's loss when we were hit with the compounded trauma of Grandpa's death. At his funeral, it appeared as if my dad and his siblings had aged about 10 years in just those twenty days. Because the family is scattered all around the tri-state area, there was an unspoken announcement that this would be the last time we'd all be in one place, at the same time, for a VERY long time. All those silly excuses over the years for getting the family together didn't seem so silly after all.
The one-year mark of Grandpa's passing is this week. After I posted my blog about memories with Grandma, it was interesting to see what memories stuck out in my brother and sister's mind. For the record, here are my top 10 memories with Grandpa: